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Most commonly referred to as “The Giver,” the ENFJ personality type is also known as “The Teacher” or “The Mentor.”
Those with this personality type genuinely care about people and truly want what’s best for themselves, others, and humanity as a whole.
This allows the Giver to easily connect with people from a wide range of backgrounds due to his or her authenticity and altruism.
As one of the rarest personality types, ENFJs make up only about 2 to 3 percent of the population.
- E – Extraverted: Outgoing, social, talkative, engaging
- N – Intuitive: Persuasive, instinctive, idealistic, imaginative
- F – Feeling: Encouraging, empathetic, sensitive,
- J – Judging: Organized, ethical, prepared, disciplined
Highly charismatic, ENFJs inspire others without even trying. Doing good seems to come naturally, and this positive influence seems to rub off on those around them.
They’re interested in the welfare and well-being of others, almost to a fault. Givers can get so caught up in a cause that they may lose a bit of themselves if they don’t maintain a slight personal distance from the situation.
Although the ability to influence others comes naturally to ENFJs, it is important that these individuals keep sight of positive goals and the greater good to avoid using their skills to manipulate others and situations for personal gain.
As extroverts, Givers enjoy spending time getting to know other people. However, those with this personality type also need to spend time alone to recharge and collect their thoughts.
While ENFJs uphold clear values and beliefs, they are likely to put these aside if they were to prevent them from helping someone in need.
In fact, Givers may feel like they’re alone much of the time because instead of showing their true selves to others, they act more like chameleons, changing their outward nature to fit the people and situations that they find themselves in.
Because ENFJs focus on the human condition, they like to avoid impersonal reasoning where facts and ideas have no merit for human connection.
Cognitive Functions of ENFJs
When it comes to taking in information from the environment around them, all personalities use specific cognitive functions. For the ENFJ, these cognitive functions are listed from the strongest to the weakest:
- Dominant Function: Extraverted Feeling
- Auxiliary Function: Introverted Intuition
- Tertiary Function: Extraverted Sensing
- Inferior Function: Introverted Thinking
As the dominant function, extraverted feeling means that ENFJs make decisions based on how they feel about a situation and how it will impact the needs of those around them.
They’re able to make real social connections and develop meaningful relationships with others.
Human connection is the primary focus for Givers, and these types prefer face-to-face interactions where they’re able to read others more readily.
Forward thinking, ENFJs look at future possibilities. They can place so much focus on the big picture that they often fail to see the smaller details that could affect the outcome of their well-laid plans.
These types process the data they receive from the world around them through impressions, meanings, and concepts, seeing patterns to make sense of abstract concepts or situations.
This allows them to move forward with confidence that they will develop better solutions to future problems.
Because extraverted sensing is the tertiary function, it takes a back seat to the secondary function of introverted intuition.
However, ENFJs take in information through their five senses, allowing them to be present in the moment.
This function, combined with the secondary function of introverted intuition, allows Givers to use what’s available to encourage and influence those around them to live better lives.
As the least-used function for ENFJs, introverted thinking should be developed in these types. This allows for more confidence in organization and making judgments with real-world applications.
For Givers, introverted thinking is likely to be used more when necessitated by the dominant extraverted feeling for specific situations.
An ENFJ personality type will be highly extroverted, enjoying spending time with those around them. Warm and affectionate, this type is highly supportive of others, lifting them up and encouraging them whenever needed.
As someone of this type really gains intense personal satisfaction from helping others, it can be easy for the Giver to neglect his or her own needs.
While spending time around people can be energizing for most extroverts, the ENFJ will need to take some time alone to unwind and reassess situations.
Because of the ability to see others where they are, someone of this type is great at diplomacy, bringing people from different backgrounds together and helping them to agree on common matters.
This individual is empathetic and can use his or her words for clear and effective communication.
Highly productive, the ENFJ seems to never tire of doing good. Helping others gives someone of this type energy.
However, if this person is around too much negativity for a period of time, it can leave him or her exhausted and self critical.
The ENFJ is often described with words such as the following:
- People focused
The ENFJ is great at reading others. Easily adapting to different situations, the Giver can read the people around them, quickly understanding their feelings and motives. The person of this type can then easily maneuver social gatherings and bring consensus to diverse crowds.
Someone with this personality type is a natural leader. Not only does the giver see the needs of others in various situations, this person will also have the determination and abilities to get the job done while positively influencing others in the process.
A Giver is highly altruistic. Helping others to reach their goals to make the world a better place is highly fulfilling to the ENFJ. This person is likely to see a cause through to the end even if he or she encounters some difficulty along the way.
This individual is highly organized. Whether in thoughts or in physical environment, the ENFJ like to have things in order and organized, making it easier to complete tasks in a comfortable space.
This personality type may seek outside approval. With a need for others to validate who he or she is trying to be, the ENFJ can get too caught up in seeking the approval of others. When those around him or her don’t see this person in a positive light, the Giver may lose confidence and self-esteem.
The Giver can be overly sensitive. It’s easy for the ENFJ personality type to take things too personally. Even if feedback is asked for, any negative comments or criticism is easily taken to heart and may negatively impact this person.
The ENFJ can be indecisive. With all of the possibilities and potentials that can be seen by someone with this personality type, it can be difficult for this person to make up his or her mind, especially when it comes to making a big decision.
This type can be too giving. Putting others above himself or herself, the ENFJ is prone to neglecting his or her own needs for those of others. This can lead to being spread too thin. The self-sacrificing nature of the Giver can leave him or her feeling empty and self critical if he or she can’t meet the needs of others.
ENFJs in Relationships
When seeking relationships, those with the ENFJ personality are in it for the long term. Casual encounters don’t interest these types, and Givers will show their dependability and commitment almost from the start.
They will stand by and stand up for their partners in almost any circumstances.
The greatest happiness for Givers is when their partners are happy and show it through affection.
These personality types will work for the betterment of their partners, often neglecting their own needs in the process.
Because ENFJs don’t like conflict, they can often brush small issues under the rug to avoid confrontation. This can all build up if concerns remain unresolved for too long.
As long as their partners are as concerned about their needs as they are about those of their partners, the relationships can flourish and issues can be resolve quickly.
Unfortunately, all of the care that’s provided by Givers can make them come across as needy or smothering.
If relationships fail, they will blame themselves and may feel betrayed after all that they’d given of themselves for the relationship.
When it comes to friendships, Givers are active participants, consistently giving of their time and effort to keep the relationship strong. They genuinely care about people and like to spend time with others.
When they’re not encouraging or helping others with problems, they love to have conversations about possibilities and their ideals.
Because ENFJs value improvement in others, they often try to push their friends to new heights for which they aren’t ready. When this happens, they need to learn that it’s okay for people to move at their own pace and grow when they’re ready.
While instilling values in their children, Givers will explain the importance rather than simply expecting obedience. They will encourage their children to follow their hearts and explore the options available to them.
ENFJs have high standards for their children though they have a hard time with areas of discipline.
However, they will give the time and effort necessary to nurture responsible children.
Working with a Giver
Because someone with the ENFJ personality type is such as people person, it makes sense that this person will do best in a work environment where he or she must interact with others.
Quick to learn new processes, this type is a hard worker and can easily handle multiple responsibilities at once.
Because the Giver is so willing to help out and is so good at multitasking, it can be easy for supervisors or coworkers to overload this person.
Out of a desire for no conflict, the ENFJ will happily take on extra tasks to keep the peace and to look good for the company.
Great at working in teams, someone of this personality type can keep the work moving forward.
Averting potential disputes between team members and keeping everyone on track, projects are always completed on time and typically exceed the expectations of those in positions of authority.
Since helping others is what the Giver personality type loves the most, it’s not unusual to find someone with this type in a career field where he or she can fulfill this inner need.
Although careers abound where people need help, the ENFJ will be more satisfied in a position that brings about long-term positive change.
Some great careers that a Giver might choose include the following:
- Social worker
- Religious worker
- Life coach
- Motivational speaker
ENFJ Hobbies and Interests
ENFJs may enjoy reading, writing, and listening to music. They also like to organize and plan various social functions that allow them to use their excellent people skills in a fun and relaxing way. Many Givers enjoy the arts and like to visit museums. Developing skills such as gourmet cooking also is of interest to many ENFJs as a way of self improvement.
Some famous Givers that you may have heard of include Barack Obama, Andy Griffith, Maya Angelou, King David, Julie Andrews, Martin Luther King, Jr., Katy Perry, Ben Affleck, and Mikhail Gorbachev.
Taking a genuine interest in others, ENFJ personality types are charismatic and inspiring, bringing out the best in those around them.
As natural leaders, they pull people together for a common cause and have the energy to work through to the end.
Making a lasting difference in the lives of those around them, Givers make the world a brighter place.
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