12 Ways to Tell if an Introvert is Mad at You

Are you interested in how to tell if an introvert is mad at you?

If you’re in some type of relationship with an introvert, friend, family member or romantic partner, you’re already aware that this person probably likes to have time to himself or herself.

An introvert needs to spend time alone to recharge, especially after spending time in crowds.

The introverted person in your life doesn’t mind spending time in silence; he or she doesn’t feel the need to talk all of the time.

The introvert may also have difficulty outwardly expressing his or her emotions.

So how can you tell if an introvert is angry? Although everyone is unique, an introvert will respond in one or more of these 12 ways if this individual is mad at you.

1. The introvert pretends that everything is okay.

An introverted individual isn’t always good at expressing how he or she feels, especially if the mood is negative.

Consequently, you may not know anything is wrong unless this person exhibits additional symptoms of introverted anger.

He or she responds in this way because this person is trying to avoid confrontation.

Rather than come right out and tell you what’s wrong, he or she is most likely to pretend that everything’s okay rather than have to deal with a stressful situation.

If you’re extremely perceptive, you might notice small changes in the behavior of the introvert in your life. Subsequently, when you bring this up, this individual will deny that anything’s wrong.

2. The introverted individual isolates himself or herself.

While it’s not uncommon for an introvert to want to spend time alone, you’re probably familiar with the patterns if you’re close to him or her.

However, when the introverted individual experiences negative emotions such as anger, he or she needs more time alone to deal with the situation alone.

Additionally, this person will want to stay as far away from you as possible because being near you brings up the negative emotions that the introvert is trying to avoid, causing him or her undue stress.

The introverted individual would rather be tucked away somewhere else than deal with you.

If your introverted relationship suddenly doesn’t want to spend time with you or engage in activities with you that you’re used to doing together, chances are that he or she is mad at you.

Rather than have to engage in a long, drawn-out conversation to deal with the emotional issue at hand and the stress that it encompasses, the introvert will cut you out of his or her life and avoid communication until this person is no longer angry.

3. The introvert stops taking your calls.

An introverted individual who is angry likes to avoid people and situations that cause uncomfortable emotions.

One way you’ll understand that this is a symptom of introverted anger is if he or she typically takes your calls and then suddenly stops.

If you’re lucky enough to get a return reply at all, it will most likely be through text message or email later on with some type of excuse as to why the individual didn’t answer, such as he or she was napping, in the shower, or the phone was dead.

It’s not uncommon for an introvert to regularly ignore calls and respond back on his or her own time frame.

While this is completely normal for that person, if you notice a change in the frequency with which this introvert engages with you over the phone, he or she may be angry with you.

4. An introvert gives monosyllabic responses.

Although an introvert will try to avoid you at all costs if he or she is angry, sometimes this isn’t possible. If this person has to be around you and communicate, he or she will keep responses as short as possible.

One-word responses are the way that the introvert tells you that he or she isn’t interested in having a conversation. Hopefully, you’ll get tired of pressing for information and just disappear.

Many introverts aren’t highly communicative in the first place. However, if the introvert you know suddenly cuts down verbal communication with you, this can be a signal that this person is mad.

5. This person uses the silent treatment.

If the introvert in your life can get away with it, he or she will refuse any type of communication with you at all. Looking at you or even hearing your voice can become too stressful to this person.

However, when he or she is in a position where this isn’t possible, the individual will resort to monosyllabic responses.

6. Someone who is introverted may become apathetic.

An introvert isn’t always about being alone. In fact, he or she most likely enjoys engaging in activities with those he or she trusts.

However, if the introvert in your life suddenly doesn’t seem thrilled with previously enjoyable activities and appears rather indifferent, this is a good sign that this person is mad.

If you try to bring up how much this person regularly enjoys certain things, you’re likely to be met with a “whatever.”

Not only is this a one-word response, but it’s a dead giveaway that something’s bothering him or her.

7. The introvert refuses your help.

Whether at home, school or work, the introverted individual will neither ask for nor accept your help no matter how big the task may be.

This person would rather spend extra time on tasks to get the job done by himself or herself rather than allow you to take the burden off if this individual is angry with you.

Although an introvert is independent by nature, this person will typically accept help from someone that he or she likes.

Someone who is introverted still generally enjoys working with others whom he or she feels close to.

When angry, the introverted person doesn’t want you near. He or she would rather fall to a gruesome death than take your hand. Being around you causes stress that he or she wishes to avoid.

Another dead giveaway that an introvert is mad at you is if this person accepts help from someone else after refusing your assistance.

8. An introvert may take anger out elsewhere.

Whether using violence against inanimate objects or toward the harming of self, an introvert may take out his or her anger in ways that aren’t verbal.

An introvert may resort to self-harm as a way to cope with the pain that the anger is causing him or her.

9. The introverted individual cries.

While someone might be prone to crying when extremely angry, the introvert is actually deeply hurt at this point.

Because the introvert doesn’t allow just anyone to become close to him or her, your betrayal can have a devastating effect on this person.

Since someone who is an introvert is typically very strong emotionally, if this person gets to the point of crying, things are really bad.

10. This individual deeply focuses on other matters.

When pushed, the introvert delves deeper into projects to avoid confrontation.

You may find this person spending more time at work or on other projects that require this person’s attention that allow him or her to avoid spending time with you.

11. The introvert blows up over trivial matters.

Because the introverted individual tends to bottle up negative emotions, there comes a time when it becomes all too much, and these feelings come out all at once.

Typically, he or she will blow up over some small issue that really doesn’t matter.

12. This person still talks to your pets.

If you have pets, the introvert in your life will still trust and love the animals because they won’t hurt him or her. Animals are consistent, always there and don’t need conversation. They’ll sit there in silence with the introvert.

When your friend visits and talks more to your pets than to you, this could mean that you’ve angered him or her.

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