Interested in an INFJ – INFP Relationship guide? Then this post is for you!
Looking for a mate is a serious matter for both the INFJ and INFP personality types. With the INFJ’s perfectionist standards and the INFP’s idealistic fantasies, this can often be a difficult undertaking.
Because both can be meticulous when it comes to finding a compatible partner, INFJs and INFPs can feel confident that they made the grade when it comes to forming long-lasting bonds with each other.
Comprising less than 6 percent of the population combined, INFJs and INFPs may feel like two peas in a pod when a relationship does develop between them.
Forming a Bond on Shared Ideals
Both the INFJ and the INFP have an innate desire to share common interests with their partners. For these two types, it’s typically easy as they both value similar traits and often share similar goals in life. Ultimately, they both wish to make the world a better place for themselves and for others.
Because both of these personality types value personal space, they’re able to respect the boundaries that each one holds dear. This gives them the time to pursue individual goals or to enjoy quiet time in their own unique ways.
INFJ and INFP personality types are good listeners because they actually care about the viewpoints of others. Although private and reserved, they can frequently relish in long conversations with each other that wouldn’t be possible with anyone else.
Enjoying the big picture, both INFJs and INFPs prefer to look at possibilities and see meanings and patterns in everything around them. This can provide a basis for true quality time for the INFJ – INFP couple.
While they may not always agree, they can use their innate kindness and empathy to provide words of affirmation that each party desires. This allows them to take refuge in one another when the outside world can be seen as cold and uncaring.
Although they share the same values of introversion, intuition, and feeling, INFJs and INFPs attempt to reach these ends through different means.
While this may seem like a recipe for disaster, it actually provides an opportunity for each one to view the world through the eyes of the other. This can fulfill the needs of both the INFJ and the INFP in developing a deeper understanding and a more meaningful relationship with each other and the world around them.
Though the INFJ and the INFP may have different views on handling various real-life scenarios, each person will most likely be able to understand where the other is coming from due to their shared empathy.
They can provide the necessary inspiration to help the other to keep moving forward to realize their shared and individual dreams.
As INFPs prefer to go with the flow, they often let distractions become a deterrence from dealing with any problems at hand. Since INFJs like to get things done, they can take this as an opportunity to get the INFP’s head out of the clouds and back on track.
However, because INFJs actually enjoy making decisions, INFPs may tend to leave too much of this responsibility to their partners.
Challenges to Overcome
There can be potential issues if one partner cannot meet the often unrealistic expectations of the other. The INFJ and the INFP need to take stock of their own motivations to prevent this from happening.
Because both INFJs and INFPs hold firm in their values, disagreements can occur when either of these feel that their idealistic views of the world are about to be shattered. However, both care about the feelings of others, so coming to a common ground is possible through open, honest communication.
Perhaps the biggest challenge that the INFJ – INFP couple will face is that of the condition of their shared living environment. INFJs absolutely require a neat and tidy space where everything is in its own place according to plan while INFPs are notoriously unconcerned about organization.
This can lead to resentment of the part of the INFJ at having to burden the brunt of household chores. If the INFJ shares the personal importance of a tidy environment in a calm and compassionate way, the INFP is more likely to understand and make better efforts to help out.
The preference for introversion for both parties can often lead to a sort of codependency that shuns the outside world. To avoid this, it is important for both the INFJ and the INFP to maintain solid connections outside of the partnership.
However, INFPs need to understand that those with INFJ personalities may misjudge motives and take outside social bonds as a threat to the relationship. It is important for the INFP to be understanding of where their partner is coming from while the INFJ should consider that most INFP friendships are based on shared interests and nothing more.
While INFPs may travel life without the use of a compass, going anywhere the wind takes them, INFJs need more constancy and an assurance that everything will remain consistent along the way. This can lead to the INFP feeling that the INFJ is too controlling and rigid while the INFJ can see the INFP as being too indecisive and often flighty.
INFPs tend to internalize their emotional responses, often wallowing for hours or even days over a perceived injustice or assault on their core values. On the hand, INFJs are more prone to emotional outbursts that can take their partners by surprise.
Because both personality types desire harmony in their relationships, it’s important for each of them to understand how the other deals with potentially stressful situations to provide the necessary support and encouragement they both desire so desperately.
Tips for the INFJ – INFP Couple
Since each partner internalizes what the other externalizes, and vice versa, it may take a little additional effort to understand the motives of the other and why they do the things they do. By always maintaining, and even encouraging, open communication, these two can gain an extremely strong bond based on mutual compassion and respect.
- Give the INFP time to fully process his or her feelings.
- Try not to read into things.
- Appreciate the INFP’s flexibility when making plans.
- Allow time for unregulated enjoyment.
- Be open and honest regarding motives.
- Don’t take criticism personally.
- Acknowledge the desire of the INFJ to maintain a schedule.
- Respect the INFJ’s need for a tidy environment.
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