INFJs are very private people. Although they wish to develop close bonds with others, it’s often difficult for them to make the first move. Additionally, these types need time to be able to open up to others. Having a total dislike of small talk, INFJs prefer to discuss topics with meaning.
As perfectionists, INFJs hold others to the same standards of ethics to which they hold themselves. Casual relationships hold no value for those with this personality type as they’re looking for connections that feel more like soulmates rather than just basic friends or lovers.
INFJs and Friendship
When choosing friends, those with this personality type want to share their time with those who hold similar values. It’s not likely that they’ll easily make friends with coworkers or in other areas where they’re likely to meet up based solely on circumstances.
Authenticity is a must for those who wish to be friends with Advocates. Those of this type are great at reading external cues and can size up a person with extreme accuracy based solely on observations.
It can take some time to get INFJs to open up because they like to fully understand people and situations before they commit themselves. Because they’re perfectionists, they often have requirements for friendship that can be hard for others to live up to.
Unlike many other introverted types, Advocates relish good conversations. They prefer to have discussions regarding theories and insights, lofty topics that aren’t always appreciated by some other personality types.
Once INFJs can trust someone, they’re willing to open up with their feelings and deepest desires. Lasting friendship doesn’t always involve spending a lot of time with these individuals as they prefer quality rather than quantity.
Romantic Relationships and INFJs
It can take a lot of patience on the part of a potential partner to woo the heart of an INFJ. This is because the Advocate takes the task of finding a suitable partner very seriously. This person can be picky, which can narrow down possible suitors quickly.
Once an authentic connection has been established, the INFJ shows unconditional love wholeheartedly. Spontaneity is important for someone of this type, and the individual will enjoy surprising a partner in many ways.
Relationships with the INFJ should be allowed to deepen as they don’t like shallow thinkers. A willingness for commitment is a must. Extremely passionate, the Advocate wants to connect with a partner in all ways, including spiritually and emotionally.
It’s important for a partner to show affection as deeply and intensely as does the INFJ to make this person feel appreciated. Because someone with this personality type desires to make others happy, they do best with those who feel the same way.
When raising children, INFJs provide plenty of opportunities for independence by allowing them to make their own choices. They desire for their children to develop their own beliefs while still maintaining a strong parent-child bond.
Although they allow their children to make their own choices and learn by their mistakes, INFJs are by no means hands-off parents. Caring and devoted, Advocates will take time to help their children grow and learn important values.
Those with this personality type are extremely generous and will sacrifice whatever is necessary for the well-being of their children. Because they’re highly empathetic, they’re able to see to their children’s needs without neglect.
Although INFJs are caring and warm, they can be fairly strict when it comes to discipline. This is most likely to occur when children go against the very values that are firmly upheld by the parent. Also, since these types are perfectionists, they can impose some fairly strict standards and rules on their children.
INFJ Compatibility with Other Personality Types
While romantic relationships and friendships can develop between any personalities, especially with work and dedication, some personality types are more compatible with INFJS than others.
The best compatibility can be found with the following personality types:
Those of these types are more likely to share similar core values with INFJs and have similar views on life. Having plenty in common with Advocates, persons with these personalities are likely to share beliefs, views, and personal standards that mesh well with INFJs.
Complementary relationships can be found with these personalities:
On the surface, those with these personality types may not establish a quick connection with Advocates. However, once they get to know each other, INFJs and those with these personalities are likely to share many mutual interest and common goals. Their differences will tend to complement, rather than irritate, each other.
Certain personality types will pose some differences that INFJs may find fascinating:
One of the great things about these personality types is that they may share many character traits with INFJs. Despite the common themes shared by these personality types, INFJs will find any differences to be intriguing and attractive.
Finally, there are some personalities that are nearly opposite of all that INFJs stand for:
It is often said that opposites attract, and that can be the case for INFJs and these personality types. The strengths and weaknesses of Advocates can be balanced out because these personalities can provide plenty of opportunity for growth.
Because INFJs are private people, they tend to be reserved when getting to know others. As long as a connection can be found, those with this personality type will slowly let down their guard and eventually open up to others. Since they can see through what’s fake in a heartbeat, it’s important to always be authentic with Advocates.
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