Enneagram 5 and 7 Relationship

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Type 5 – The Curious Investigator

Investigative, Curious, Observer, Authority, Scientific, Analyser, Solitary

Type 7 – The Captivating Optimist

Optimistic, Epicurian, Visionary, Multi-Talented, Innovative, Curious Adventurer

Core Patterns Shared by Type 5s and Type 7s

The Head triad rules over both Type 5s and Type 7s. 

This means that safety and security are huge concerns. 

Both of these personality types are strong mentally and very intelligent. 

In fact, they derive a lot of who they are from the fact that they are intellectual.  It is how they identify themselves, and how the rest of the world sees them as well. 

Both are quick-witted, sharp thinkers, and both partners have many interests from which to draw. 

Type Sevens are enthusiastic about their connections with the material world. 

They are exuberant and are constantly on the prowl for the next fun and interesting place, person or thing.   

They can be thought of as experience junkies whose outlook on life is full of exuberance and joy. 

Type Fives are more cautious, and operate from the assumption that time and resources are limited, and that the world is but a puzzle that should be resolved as quickly as possible. 

During times of stress, Type Seven’s quest for fun can go under with selfish escapism.   

Fives, on the other hand, retreat to their books and ideas that they have constructed as a way of responding to feeling of loneliness or emotional pain.

Type Sevens, instead, will set out to acquire new material possessions and new experiences. 

The Values Shared by Type 5s and Type 7s

The pairing of Type 5 and Type 7 shares a common passion for creativity, meaningful conversations, deep thoughts, innovative ideas, and critical theory. 

They both value mental engagement and rationality. 

They both find debate and intellectual discourse meaningful. 

Regarding mental engagement, Type 5s and Type 7s are on the same page. While their approach is almost the opposite, they both rest on an intellectually-based foundation. 

How Types 5 & 7 Complement One Another 

Type sevens are creative thinkers who constantly generate new ideas. 

They seek every chance possible to explore, transform, innovate, and arrive at new solutions to their own and the world’s problems. 

Type Fives are the opposite, even though they, too, relish thinking and problem-solving. 

Both Type 5s and Type 7s cherish the time they are allotted to reflect, consider and to contemplate the world, and to come up with their own conclusions at each stage of their development.   

However, Type Sevens focuses on having more of everything, including more ideas, options, interests, connections, and more possibilities. 

Type Fives, on the other hand, want to sort out one problem at a time and to arrive at one solution at a time. 

They do this with steady contemplation and deliberate thinking.  

When left to their own devices, Type Sevens seek to jump quickly from a problem to an idea to a solution and back to another problem with alacrity.  

These differences balance the relationship and help it progress forward, while, at the same time, providing its most significant challenge. 

Type Fives need to move methodically and slowly. 

Sevens want to jump in feet first and to move as quickly as possible. 

Fives seek to become masters at their craft, and Sevens only want to skim the surface of as many things as possible. 

They tend to do this, and then connect the dots between them. Fives want to carefully and deliberately zero in.  Sevens have the desire to broaden their horizons and to branch out. 

Fives provide the power of objectivity to the Five-Seven relationship.

This is accompanied by a sense of humor and self-reliance. 

Type Sevens bring acute spontaneity, independence, and optimism. 

Type Sevens are recognized as people who are intelligent and generous.  In social settings, they can be the life of the party. 

Conversely, their Type Five partners can be withdrawn and detached. 

The unspoken objects of their attention are their family and friends and the outlying community. 

This is another example of the embodiment of the opposite positions of the same coin during socialization.

Type Fives are considered the pillars of society, and Type Sevens tend to be the inspiration that can infuse life with delight, joy, and light. 

How Type Sevens and Fives Can Get Into Trouble

Types Five and Sevens are quite capable of getting themselves into trouble, and in fact, find themselves in dire straits.

This is because it brings these two together and helps them deal with their places in the world are so opposite. 

Type Fives tend to be quieter and more reserved. They observe but do not comment. 

Type Sevens is outgoing, and outspoken, jumping straight into the center of whatever is going on and proceeding directly from the center. 

Type Fives find themselves confused at times, overwhelmed by the sheer volume of Type Seven’s schemes and ideas and their hefty ideas and desires. 

Much of the time, these things are contradictory, because of Seven’s lack of discretion and forethought. 

On the other hand, Type Sevens can become confused by Type Five’s lackadaisical approach to engagement. 

This causes distrust on the part of Type Sevens. When Fives are stressed or pressured, they automatically flip on the switch, which makes them mindful of scarcity. 

Their thinking leans toward energy, resources, and emotional bandwidth, and they withdraw.  It can be such a severe and complete 

Sevens can, in turn, become confused by Fives’ lack of engagement, and distrustful of their wordlessness.

When Fives feel pressured or stressed, they revert to a scarcity mindset, which dictates that there is not enough time, resources, energy, or emotional bandwidth to engage the world adequately, and they withdraw.

This retreat can be so severe they even shut them off themselves.

They can become reclusive, isolated, and completely disembodied, locked in their headiness, devoid of physical or emotional sensation. 

When stressed, Type Sevens tend to do the exact opposite, like their Type Five partners. 

They bound into the world, grasping at any experience they can muster, never feeling satisfied.

In this state, they tend to lack judgment and act rashly with extravagance, in favor of selfish consumption and instant gratification, which is indicative of their emotional immaturity, compared to Type Five. 

Combined, the coping strategies of each person can be detrimental to their relationship. 

Sevens crave increased engagement at the moment Fives have chosen to detach. Fives crave peace when Sevens have chosen to turn up the volume. 

This pattern is such that Type Sevens become extra demanding at the exact times that Fives become detached. 

This outlines the fact that the most prominent source of conflict for this particular pairing, whether in their personal lives or professionally, is that their stress responses are opposite and tend to exacerbate, trigger and evoke additional stress in the other partner. 

Since both of these types tend to avoid conflict and have trouble accessing their innermost emotions, this is a recipe for trouble in the relationship. 

What Each Types Five and Seven Need To Be Aware Of

The differences and similarities between these pairs could create either the best or the worst team. 

Which one depends on the couple’s level of physical and emotional health and its ability to use the challenges that they face as a means to communicate. 

If they are working together on a project or building something as a team, Sevens are more likely to excel when coming up with ideas, but the actual execution is Five’s strong point. 

Both tend to be pulled toward diving into something fresh and, therefore, more exciting, at least to them. 

Type Fives are more rigid and Sevens need to be aware that their partners are somewhat closed off during the idea phases of a project. 

However, Type Fives will have more stamina to work through any of the parts that Type Sevens consider to be boring.   

These two need to have clear, forthcoming channels of communication at each phase of a project and to be able to address any conflicts that present themselves. 

How Types 7 & 5  Can Support One Another

When it comes to work, what each considers to be supported is very different from the other’s perspective.  

Fives need solitude and uninterrupted time to focus, while Sevens crave stimulation, and the chance to collaborate. 

Sevens like working with others and require clear deadlines.   

Fives want their own spaces and work better in a more self-directed way. 

These things need to be laid out clearly before the couple undertakes any project, so that each will know his or her role. 

Conclusion

Fives and Sevens can make a dynamic couple capable of achieving a lot of good in the world. 

However, because their approaches are so different from each other, they can also end up amid disaster as a couple. 

This is why communication is the key to success for a Five-Seven couple. 

This couple has a natural tug-o-war approach to their relationship, but when each clearly understands what is expected, they can do great things to make the world a better place.

This includes their own home environments, as well as in the workplace. 

Here are guides to Type 5 relationships with other types:

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