Enneagram 3 and 5 Relationship

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Enneagram Type 3 – The Achieving Success Story

Ideal Exemplar, High Achiever, Production Master, Motivational, Star Quality Persona, Best of the Best 

Enneagram Type 5 – The Contemplative Curious

Observant, Analytical, Contemplative, Science-Oriented, Solitary Person

Core Patterns of Types 3 & 5

No pairing practices avoidance of emotions as astutely as the Type 3 & 5 couple.

Threes are overachievers who tend to immerse themselves in their work. 

Type Fives are solitary types who seek solitude within their strong intellectual capacity. 

Types Fives and Threes do have emotional depth. However, each of them focuses on their productivity in life, their self-discipline, and their strong determination, rather than on outward displays of emotions. 

Types Three and Five consider feelings as luxuries that are tantamount to unnecessary overindulgence.  

While Type Threes take pride in their accomplishments, their personal successes, achieving their goals, and working hard. 

Type Fives can share these same feelings, but are more solitary in their preferences, and tend to focus on one specialized area at a time. 

Fives are more educationally motivated.

They want to understand everything and have more real knowledge about everything than they want to accomplish things. 

Values Shared by Types 3 & 5

Both Type 3 and Type 5 personalities value the act of being effective, and both are. 

This is especially true when concerning professional or business affairs.  They also strive to be competent, successful, and objective.

Both types are high achievers who try to rise to the top, regardless of what they do, whether in a work setting, sports, or relationship itself.

However, each takes a different approach from the other.  

Type Threes keep working at things until they feel they have mastered them.  It might take several tries over a long period of time.

Again, Fives learn everything they can about whatever it happens to be and rely on their knowledge to show them how to master something.

They work until they can consider themselves to be experts.   

Since they share these characteristics, the couple tends to be highly accomplished in many different areas. 

This causes others to look up to them.  

Another trait that this couple shares is their  protective attitude toward how they spend their time and energy.   

Both value having the opportunity to work without being distracted, and even though Type Threes are more social, both types also enjoy spending solitary time. 

Type Threes are fast making decisions, because even though their emotional life drives them, even if they are unaware of it. 

Fives, however, spend a lot of time trying to understand a situation before taking action. 

The end result is the same.

However, they tend to work on something until they succeed at mastering it, and they are socially admired and respected for this particular ability.  

How Enneagram 3 and 5 Pairs Complement Each Other

Types 3 and 5 share much in common, and even their differences are complementary to one another. 

Each can bring out the best parts in his or her partner. 

Both tend to become engrossed in their work so as to lose touch with what is going on around them, but even then, their work ethic is compatible. 

They work as a powerful team professionally because both have such brilliance to share. 

They also work beautifully as a couple, because they share similar energy, even though their motivation can sometimes differ. 

While Fives aren’t very sociable, their Three partners can take up the slack left by this deficiency with their own dynamic social aptitude. 

While Threes tend to rush their decision-making process, Fives can mellow them out with their contemplative tendencies that help the couple arrive at the best decisions for the majority of the time. 

Fives count on their Type Three counterparts to provide confidence, excellent communication skills, and the ability to present what needs to be seen in a professional setting. 

Threes rely upon their Five partners to provide an excelled level of understanding, expertise in areas that they (Type Three) do not have, a degree of depth that they crave and a sense of overall balance.   

Each gives the other the space that is needed to be efficient, to think clearly, and to progress at his or her own pace, while standing by in case the partner needs them. 

For this couple, this is the best system. 

Their social credibility and degree of sheer brilliance make this couple an enviable one. 

On a professional level, Fives can slide right into a project and immediately take over the analytical part, conduct the research and interpret it perfectly. 

Type Threes, on the other hand, go straight for public relations, promotions, sales manager and overseeing team efforts. 

Together, this is the perfect combination. 

As friends or a romantic couple, they comprise one of the hardest-working teams available anywhere. 

They are the right combination to get the job done well.

How Type Three and Type Five Can Get Into Trouble

Since both of these personality types are reluctant to convey their true feelings outwardly, even when things have gone wrong, this can cause them to find themselves in trouble very quickly, if they aren’t mindful of how to handle their dynamic.

Rather than expressing how they feel openly and honestly, or confronting their emotions, these two can both display distance, and coldness and resort to sarcasm. 

Their sophisticated brand of sarcasm can be particularly brutal, and each tends to detach from his or her partner, treating the partner like a stranger or casual acquaintance.

This can form a wide river between them that sometimes cannot be traversed. It can lead to a breakup. 

During these difficult times, Type Fives can become quite argumentative with a more intellectual arguing style.

Threes, on the other hand, can take on the persona of being self-important and immature, evoking exasperation in their Type Five partners who view their partners as shallow, or even deceitful. 

Threes view Type Fives, during these times, as being cold and insolent.  

In a professional setting, time management can be an issue between these types of personalities, because the two types take different approaches.

For instance, the Type Five will take his or her time and make sure all of the details of a project are properly covered, while the Three Type will take one look at a project and jump straight in with both feet running, not caring that much about careful attention to detail.

If a solution doesn’t work the first time for a Type Three, he or she will keep trying over and again. 

Type Fives tend to want to get things done correctly the first time. This is a major difference that can lead to hard feelings.      

Another area that is ripe with the potential for causing unrest is that of who gets to take credit for an idea. 

Because these two personality types think so much alike, and contribute so deeply to one another’s projects, it is hard for them to give the other person in the relationship due credit. 

Unfortunately, this can lead to irreparable damage to the relationship unless one or both parties learn to give his or her partner due credit for diligence and hard work.    

What  Types Three and Five Need To Be Aware Of

Threes should come to the realization that trying to coax their Five partners out into the open when they retreat in solitude can be a mistake. 

It is a deeply engrained personality trait that Fives crave solitude more often than not. 

Threes, the social butterflies that they tend to be, can take offense at their Five partners’ need for solitude, but the sooner it is accepted, the more harmonious the relationship will be. 

How Threes and Fives Can Support One Another

Threes can support their Five partners by clearly defining their personal goals, and by letting his or her partner in on what their expectations are as a partner. 

Their optimism and skill encourage Fives to work at a steady pace.

Fives can help their Three partners by encouraging them to learn more about the inner workings of things, and by teaching them to pay close attention to detail. 

Fives can also be supportive by checking the work Threes do and by encouraging them to take their time and get a job done correctly the first time. 

Both types can show support by praising the other and by showing appreciation for each partner’s roles in work and in life. 

Conclusion     

Twos and Fives have the uncanny ability to arrive at the same destination by taking completely different paths. 

Each has skills and abilities that the other lacks, and when these things are honed and used in the relationship or professionally, no gaps are left. 

Each has the ability to accomplish much as an individual. However, when they join a team, they can seem invincible. 

Both exude competence, skill, and intelligence, but Threes tend not to think ahead and jump in with both feet, while Fives take their time and contemplate a situation before embarking upon it. 

Both of these things can be good.   

Fives and Threes are couples that would rather accomplish a job than get caught up in the emotional aspects of things. 

For this reason, each party learns at an early age to suppress their feelings for the good of the whole. 

However, at some point, there has to be a break from this rigidity, so each partner in the union should encourage the other to express himself or herself freely and often. 

This can help eliminate any problems inherent in suppressing their emotions. 

Here are guides to Type 3 relationships with other types:

Here are guides to Type 3 relationships with other types:

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