Enneagram 5 and 6 Relationship
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Type 5- The Curious Contemplator
Fact checker, Observant, Pro, Seeks Empirical Evidence, Examiner, Solitary Person.
Type 6 – Faithful Caretaker
Faithful Skeptic, Steadfast, Problem Fixer, Defends the innocent, Caretaker, Curious, Plays Devil’s Advocate
Core Pattern Shared by Types 5 & 6
This pairing is guided by the Thinking triad. Type Sixes are cerebral types who are prone to strong emotions.
Type Fives tend to be objective, curious, mentally flexible, rational and observant. Both personality types tend to be skeptical.
Both are loyal to themselves and to others.
They question that which they do not understand. Both have warm personalities.
Safety and security are high priorities for both Type Fives and Type Sixes, and they obsess about oncoming catastrophes that may or may not occur.
Fives wonder aloud about what could go amiss, and Sixes observes how events that might lead to danger might connect.
Type Fives feel wounded if they perceive themselves as being neglected or misunderstood.
When this occurs, they retreat inwardly and become quiet and withdrawn as they contemplate the situation.
Conversely, Type Sixes feel that the entire world is dangerous at some level and that they must be guarded when it isn’t necessary.
To compensate, they make choices or form connections that give them a more secure, comforting feeling.
Shared Values by Types 5 & 6
The pairing of a Type 5 and Type 6 results in a heady couple.
Both share a tendency toward mental acuity and continually seek new knowledge.
They tend to choose complex games that have something to do with their ability to think.
Both types love to be challenged intellectually and, at an early age, gravitate toward working on complex puzzles and games of that ilk.
Type 5s are fascinated with everything that their Type 6 partners know. Likewise, Type 6 are happy to learn everything they can from Type 5s knowledge banks.
This is especially true when the topic is about problem-solving from an everyday level to global issues.
Each loves the strategies and solutions involved, and each has input about the other person’s theories and the progress that his or her partner makes.
These personality types gravitate toward deep conversations, are skeptical, objective and understand how to provide a cogent analysis of a given situation.
Each has a deeper understanding of what is going on than the average person, and then this pairing is made, it is doubly so.
How Types 5 & 6 Complement One Another
Types 5 & 6 have a symbiotic connection, intellectually, that is. However, they are quite different from one another emotionally.
They can have enthralling discussions about current events, social events, their personal or world problems, doubts, theories, and so forth, and each enjoys hearing the perspective of the other.
As one talks, the other will pepper the conversation with questions and the conversation will be expanded as it progresses.
These conversations provide both of them with a sense of intellectual satisfaction.
Type Sixes tend to be more intellectually passionate than their Type 5 partners and feel that they can express themselves better.
Type Fives are more inwardly directed, offering the perfect complement to their Type Six partner.
However, Sixes have extreme ways of coping with their prevailing feelings of fear and firmly cling to their belief systems more than Fives do.
Fives tend to be more the maverick type, rejecting conventional ways of doing things, and again, offer balance to the couple.
Each partner provides to the other with what is lacking in the relationship.
Type Fives provide detached objectivity and calm to the relationship.
Their ability to intensely observe everything and investigate it compliments Type Six’s passion and tendency toward loyalty.
Six’s heartfelt values and feelings of insecurity are soothed by this quality in their Type Five partners and they feel grounded by it.
How Types 5 & 6 Can Get Into Trouble
These two personality types have formed reputations for placing most of their focus and energy on that which could go wrong in a given situation.
They tediously recount any obstacles that have the potential to stand in their way, and they do not distribute equal energy toward dwelling on these things and finding solutions for them.
Their tendency toward risk avoidance can interfere with their work, imposing difficulties in getting projects started and moving forward.
This includes their shared visions and goals.
These two also think about things in opposite ways, which can, at times, be problematic.
Both of them are heavy thinkers, but even after thoroughly contemplating and examining the ins and outs of a project, problem, or situation, they can come to completely different conclusions, making it difficult for them to work together at times.
Throw Six’s tendency toward being emotional into the mix, and one might find Fives leaning more toward precedents than on listening to their Type Six partners.
This can lead to resentment and outbursts.
Fives are not emotional in the same ways as their Type Six partners and are hardly emotional at all, at least, when approaching ways to solve problems.
They do not depend on consensus in the same ways that Type Sixes do, and use more scientific and proven methods.
Fives use their impressive intellectual prowess to broaden their understanding of what is and are not viable, whether it leads to their feeling more secure or not.
They also hold their information in their own heads more than their Type Six partners do, and this causes their Type Six partners to feel threatened, and sometimes, fearful.
Fives tend to face the world’s darkness head-on with their imagined fight against catastrophe.
This, of course, causes their Type Six partners to feel even more anxious and fearful when in the presence of their partners.
These tendencies can end up causing both partners to feel powerless or hopeless in the face of what they perceive as an impending calamity.
What Type 5s and 6s Need To Be Aware Of About Each Other
Often, people, such as Types 5 & 6 are, in addition to being guided by the Thinking triad, are fear types.
Even so, the fear does not manifest in them the same way.
Each has an independent sense of what is dangerous and the propensity to imagine the worst-case scenario.
When they are together, these two feed off of one another’s fears, so each should be aware of this and try to quell it, if not for their own sake, then for that of each partner.
Type Fives use their cognizance of what could end in disaster to spawn their own curious nature.
They are known to take this ball and run with it, enabling their imaginations to go wild with negativity.
Type Sixes try to keep the negative thoughts away by preparing for disaster and doing what it takes to feel safe.
They want, more than anything, to remain out of harm’s way.
If Type Fives are aware of this, they can better control their fears in the name of helping their partners cope.
These two have widely varying needs, in terms of emotional contact, as well as physical contact.
Type Sixes seek greater connection and more intimacy.
Type Fives should remember this, and put forth the extra effort.
They (Type Fives) require more alone time and time to think without being interrupted.
This can make Type Sixes feel paranoid and send them into a real tailspin, but assurance from their Type Five partners can soothe their notion that the solitude is not aimed toward them and is nothing to take personally.
Neither of these things has anything to do with their relationship and are inherently presented traits.
How Type 5s and Type 6s Can Support One Another
Both of these personality types crave clear, concise communication and friendly discourse to be happy together.
Therefore, when given from one partner to the other, these things are powerful and effective.
Because Type Sixes are often suspicious of other people, it is very important that their Type Five partners start interesting conversations that can draw them in and take their minds off their troubles.
They need their Type Five partners to reassure them, both about the relationship and about the world in general.
They listen intently when their Type Five partners provide information and feel comforted by it.
Sixes can support their Type Five partners by allowing them the privacy and space to accomplish their projects, while not allowing their insecurities to interfere with or clutter their thinking.
Conclusion
While powerful together, a Type 5 and 6 pairing also has its fallbacks. Both partners suffer from paranoia and are focused on life’s negative aspects.
Each partner is certain that calamity lurks around every corner, focusing on anything that could go wrong when approaching a problem.
Still, they manage to unite, balance one another out, and to provide the security that each needs to move ahead.
This pairing is highly intellectual and is prone to seek intellectual stimulation from their partners and to seek it out in all external endeavors.
The more complex something is, the more their intellectual curiosity is sparked.
This is the fuel upon which they are propelled forward in life.
Each seeks solutions to their own and the world’s problems.
Yet, they seek it in different ways and for different reasons, with each focusing on anything other than their own insecurities or inner emotional world.
It is an odd pairing in many ways, but it can work.
