Enneagram 1 and 1 Relationship

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Type 1

The Moralist – Perfectionist, Keeper of Rules, Moralist, Administrator, Seeker of Quality, Crusader

Core Patterns

A pairing of two Type 1s tends to focus on honesty, fairness, and competently maintaining schedules.

Each of these parties is scrupulous about fairness. Being able to keep schedules is important to both parties.

The tendency toward perfectionism has a leading role in the makeup of Type 1 since neither partner knows that there is no such thing as being perfect for any human being. 

Rather than naturally giving over to this fact, Type 1s will try harder and harder to be perfect regardless of any obstacles that may be presented before them. 

Two Type 1s treat one another with dignity and respect, yet their quest for perfection can also cause them to be super-critical of their partners at the most inopportune times. 

This is quite common among this particular personality type.

Sometimes both parties are in a double match, such as this one. will believe they have all the right answers but eventually arrive at the opposite conclusion.

Type 1s are willing to change their points of view as more evidence presents itself and without remorse or regret, but regardless, they still try to be perfect. 

When interacting with others, a Type 1 double match will make the effort to be fair and objective, and truthful at all times.

The standards for this doubles match are high. Both parties tend to be pragmatic and are not afraid to stand up for the things in which they believe.

Clarity and precision are the trademarks of two Type 1s in a relationship together. Neither are exceptionally sentimental, and neither dwells on ulterior motives.

Type 1s have the type of relationship together that is very efficient. They are organized, manage to keep things on track most of the time, and pay close attention to details.

Shared Values

The combination of two Type 1 personalities results in fabulously strong values. 

Both of these couples strive for high morals and a deep understanding of others.  Respect for character is high on their list of priorities. 

They are exceptionally strong in their convictions and can be difficult to sway in different directions. 

Even so, they can change their minds and do if one proves that either partner is wrong.

As a couple, a pair of Type Ones value morality, strive for precision in communication, possess clarity, and are functional, competent team-workers. 

They have a strong sense of duty. 

Type 1s are a complex pair when united, but expect everyone else to understand that they are always right, even when they are wrong.  

Functionality and pragmatism reign high on the list of what is important to any Type 1 personality. 

Unite two of them together in a relationship, and this tendency is even stronger.  They are highly functional and expect everyone around them to be equally so.

How Type 1 and Type 1 Pairings Complement One Another

As with virtually any two people in a double pairing, two Type 1s have a similar but not identical way of relating to one another and the rest of the world. 

Their differences, however, tend to complement rather than divide. 

Type 1s are especially attuned to their partner’s needs, at least after their first year together. 

During the early days of a Type 1 pairing, most of their time is spent observing and responding to the other’s lead.

Because Type 1s are so good at bringing forth precise, transparent, immediate environments and tend not to pay much attention to sentimentalities or ulterior motives, they can be more productive and easily achieve joint goals. 

They do not care about excessive socializing and always keep their goals in mind. 

The pairing of two Type 1s usually shares perspectives when issues concern time management, thorough communication, following the rules, or tidying up their residences. 

This couple has the uncanny ability to develop synchronous rhythms in many areas of their partnership.  Issues such as managing time, communication, following rules, and so forth often transpire flawlessly. 

One shares their high standards, whether or not their standards concern the same things.  They both set the bar high. 

From the perspective of Type 1, the world is divided into two types of people, the respectable and those who deserve no respect.

Ones always know where they stand with one another.  They state their positions clearly and do not lose their partners when they express them. 

How Two Type 1s Can Get Into Trouble

The Type 1 couple is motivated by its powerful comprehension of right and wrong.

They have outstanding self-restraint and a strong sense of responsibility in general.  This includes their acceptance of making their relationships with one another.

This pairing can be quite extreme in creating overly-formatted atmospheres, and they are reluctant to say or do something their partners do not deem appropriate. 

This can lead to a stifled existence and sometimes feelings of resentment toward the other person.  

Type 1s tend to be people who always believe they know the proper ways to do everything. 

However, their standards and ideals may not always be the same.  This can result in conflict in the pairing, which can be very painful.  

It is possible for two 1s to find themselves in a cyclic experience wherein one person corrects the other, resulting in resentment from the partner whose “mistakes” are being corrected. 

This can cause the first party to lose sight of the other person’s perspective, breeding resentment in the relationship.  It can result in distrust, resentment, and disconnection between the members of this couple.

It is dictated as part of the Gut triad that this personality type is easily susceptible to having a hard temper.

Yet, one might never notice because it is expressed in undercut, covert ways that utilize passive aggressiveness. 

Ones can be a perfectionist who nitpicks and uses condescension, severe criticism, and sarcasm to accomplish what one desires. 

This quality can result in malcontent and drama between the partners because each will attempt to assert his or her superiority over his or her partner.

When they are not getting along, Type 1s will dig in their heels and demonstrate how stubborn each can be.  At these times, little patience reveals itself. 

Another area in which these two can find themselves in trouble is their tendency to condescendingly look down their noses at the other’s perceived mistakes and/or ignorance. 

This pair should take care not to engage in any type of moral inquisition when they view someone else as being incorrect.  Mutual kindness always wins with them.

What Each Type 1 in a Double Match Should Be Aware Of

Each partner in a Type 1 relationship should be aware that, in most cases, their standards and the standards of their partners can be unrealistically high. 

This realization can lower the bar to a more realistic level and keep things less competitive.  

Each Type 1 also needs to be aware that the best way to provide what the other partner needs is to respect his or her desire for a strict level of order and cleanliness. 

Each item in the Type 1 environment has a place and should be kept in that place so as not to throw off balance. In this type of relationship, clutter will never do. 

Type 1s should also take note of their awareness of and the pickiness of others’ mistakes and try to be more tolerant, in general.

How Can Two Type 1s Support One Another?

Type 1s are inherently playful by nature and find it beneficial to intentionally seek ways to bring out the fun and joviality. 

They can support one another by acting as co-sponsors of this quest, to guide, support, and lend sage advice when needed.

Both parties in a Type 1 and Type 1 reunion tend to hold back when it comes to expressing what they need or desire. 

Each should understand this of the other and should strive not to be too hard on his or her partner, and to attempt to try to relate to him or her at all times.  

A pact between the couple to be proactive in experiencing life’s bounty can be quite beneficial and help maintain a harmonious blend of fun with the pragmatic organization.

Both can benefit from relaxation and enjoyment of life with another person with whom they can relate. 

Conclusion

Type 1s are a curious blend of the practical and fun-loving. 

The former can be the dominant trait, and when two 1s bond with one another, they can allow this characteristic to guide the relationship into a rut. 

The fun-loving part need not be forgotten, for it adds exactly what the relationship needs when things begin to grow stale and boring between the couple. 

Type 1s tend to hold back their feelings and do not openly express what each need, in terms of emotional support especially. 

It is advisable for this couple to carefully observe his or her partner, and to strive to anticipate the needs of the other.  

By taking actions, such as offering plenty of vocal praise to the other partner and to try to focus on the positive aspects of the other’s personality and deeds. 

By hearing positive reinforcement, the 1’s tendency to be self-critical will soften over time and allow each partner to become a source of goodness, reliability, and enjoyment for or her partner. 

Here are guides to Type 1 relationships with other types:

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