Enneagram 1 and 2 Relationship

Are you interested in the Enneagram 1 and 2 relationship? This guide is for you!

Enneagram Type 1 – Moral Reformist

Reformist, Specializes in Quality Control, Judge of All,  Lover of Perfection, Keeper of Rules, Administrator, Crusader

Enneagram Type 2 – Advisor and Nurturer

Helper, Giver, Caretaker, Nurturer, Advisor, Altruist, Good Samaritan

Core Pattern

Enneagram Type Ones and Type Twos lean toward compliance. They do not seek handouts and feel they must work for what they desire in life. 

However, they do it differently from one another.

One believes in traditional, purposeful work and due diligence. Twos attain it using the support of others. 

Twos emphasize being liked, and Type Ones just want to do the right thing. 

Twos are warm, caring individuals, and Ones follow closely by being upstanding moralists who are diligent and striving for perfection.   

Twos tend to put the needs of others before their own needs, while Ones place more emphasis on due diligence and consistency. 

However, they work together like a well-fitted puzzle, whose pieces are made to fill the spaces that the other leaves.  

This union of disparate pieces results in a whole union that can benefit the entire world by its presence. This is a match that makes metaphorical music.

The Shared Values of Type One and Type Twos

Type Ones and Type Twos share high ideals, but about different things and in different ways. 

When brought together as a couple, they expand normal horizons to unimaginable lengths. Their power as a couple is boundless.

Each of these types leans toward very strong ethics and is pragmatic. 

Both share the desire to serve people outside of their circles.

Both types are dedicated to their friends and can be counted upon to remain committed to their causes. 

Both types take their high moral standards quite seriously, even though they may vary from one person to the next, and both are dedicated to making the world a better place for generations to come. 

How Type One and Type Two Matches Complement One Other

A Type One and Type Two match is considered a complementary pairing because of the high moral standards and duties each takes on in his or her personal life.

Both are very responsible, both at work and home and within the relationship. 

However, as previously mentioned, they do these things from opposite approaches, each complementing the other and each expanding the other’s potential for growth and happiness.

Type Twos are known for their air of continual joyfulness that can feed the rigid demeanor of Type Ones and help them to attain a more laid-back, relaxed demeanor. 

Twos wear their hearts on their sleeves.

They also possess welcoming energy that causes Type Ones to feel satisfied and relieved. 

Twos are quite helpful individuals, in general, and Ones appreciate this.

Twos are also very demonstrative of their affection.

While Ones may show outward resistance, they take the attention into their hearts and love it, even with their own signature personal reserved nature.

Twos pay close attention to the level of quality their relationships demonstrate.

On the other hand, Type Ones possess the necessary integrity, responsibility, and conscientiousness to fulfill Two’s emotional needs. 

They can always be counted upon to be truthful, reliable, and steadfast in their convictions. 

Enneagram Type Ones can serve as outstanding confidantes and try to instill their value as trustworthiness and steadfastness to their Type Two partners. 

The Type Two partners appreciate the attention and trust, and feel bolstered by the confidence that it brings. This is a good match.

Type Ones value quality more than they love personality and character over quantity.  Type Twos feel deeply appreciated by Type Ones. 

They also appreciate Ones’ commitment to self-control, self-reliance, and improvement. 

How Type Ones Paired with Type Twos  Can Get Into Trouble

It is the desire of Type Two in any relationship to create an atmosphere that is friendly, warm, and focused on people rather than things.

This can rub Type Ones the wrong way because they don’t care for idle chit-chat or overly-sentimental encounters and can initially be suspicious of them. 

Ones can be chilly compared to the sunny general disposition of the Type Twos, and this can lead to One misunderstandings. 

Type Twos can be quite sensitive and feel rebuffed if their kindness is not openly praised and appreciated.

Even though these aspects of both personalities can cause friction.

It is nothing that cannot be overcome, for each person seeks harmony and words toward it as a goal at all times. 

They simply do it in different ways.

Type One’s are easy to judge the frivolity and sunny personality of Type Twos.

This can come off as being too harsh to Type Twos, but ironically, neither of these Enneagram types is very skilled at self-care and taking care of their own needs.

The standards by which Type Ones live tend to appear impossibly high. 

These types can deny themselves any type of pleasure or pampering if it interferes with their work ethic or sense of duty. 

On the other hand, Type Twos depend on their happy dispositions to assure their own acceptance by others, so they spend their entire lives serving others and caring for them. 

They wait until everyone else is happy before indulging their needs and desires. 

What this amounts to is that both types have extreme difficulties requesting what each needs from the other. 

In fact, the topic rarely arises, because when it does, it is usually viewed as selfishness by the other partner.

Couple this with each person’s overly-generous propensity to dispense advice, and the potential for real relationship problems can arise. 

Often, when Twos dispense advice to Type Ones, that gesture is misunderstood as criticism and can be the beginning of a breakdown of communication that begins with a slow spiral that increases and goes out of control. 

When the sentimentality and generosity of type Twos is paired with the emotional restraint possessed of the Type One personality, it can be difficult for either party to feel happy or satisfied. 

Regardless of how hard either party tries, it can be difficult to resolve this issue, although it does happen.

What a Type One and Type Two Couple Should Be Aware Of

Personal connections are what cause Type Twos to thrive. 

He or she who is willing to show interest in or who stays in touch with a Type Two on a regular basis can satisfy Type Two’s need for a relationship. 

This type tries to gain approval by helping others and will continue this practice as long as they feel loved and appreciated. 

Type Ones are cautioned not to take the support offered by their Type Two partners for granted. 

They should also let their partners know that they are deeply appreciated and come up with ways to frequently demonstrate this appreciation. 

Twos should be aware that, unlike themselves, Type Ones aren’t necessarily seeking approval. 

What Type Ones want more than approval, is a sense of order or perfection. 

Ones truly believe that they hold the secret to an ideal level of a life well-lived. 

The roots of the rigid nature of a Type One personality lie in their belief that if only everyone around them would adhere to Type One’s beliefs and rules, then the world would be a perfect place in which to live. 

How Type Ones and Type Twos Can Support One Another

Type Ones and Type Twos in a union can best support one another by consciously respecting their opposite characteristics and striving to overcome each other’s distaste for them. 

They are unique to the person displaying them, and cannot be attributed to the other person.  

Each person can support the other by not taking their differences to heart but by embracing them. 

The differences are what provide the balance between this couple, but it only works if each partner takes the time to understand the other, and his or her motivations for holding the beliefs that the other person holds.


When paired as a couple, Type One and Type Two together creates a stronger sense of value for each person. 

His or her intended purpose upon this earth is revealed more profoundly, and each’s mission becomes more deeply embedded within the psyche.

This couple needs the focus and attention of the other person, even though Type One can seem rather aloof about it. 

Type Two is deeply sentimental and appeals to Type One, who is devoid of the love for sentimentality, to fulfill this aspect of his or her life.  

Ones can sometimes find themselves struggling with the feeling that they are taking advantage of the generosity of their Type Two partners. 

They can do this by laying the appreciation on thickly, with verbal praise and by being demonstrative of their gratitude.  

Twos can make Type One’s more comfortable in a relationship by understanding that their Type One partners are more reserved and that they should not overwhelm them. 

Therefore, when a Type One does not appear openly warm to him or her partner, Type Twos need to understand that it can be attributed to the One’s more reserved nature and not to him or her personally. 

The bottom line is that in the early days of the pairing, Types One and Two should pay special attention to how each is different, but strive to see how their differences can make them a powerful couple for the betterment of human kind. 

The strength of a Type One-Type Two union far surpasses that of other Enneagram pairings, and can move metaphorical mountains.

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